Sunday, April 3, 2011

Love is in the air....

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Years ago I visited a singles club in Palo Alto, California. This was a get acquainted get together for first timers. Everybody there looked a little shy and unsure as if they were children in a cardboard box looking out from the top of the box with their eyes only. That was except, however, for 2 people. There eyes glued onto each other almost instantly.  This was some incredible chemistry because the twenty or so men and women at this first time gathering had there eyes glued on this newly formed couple like they were watching two flying insects mating in midair on a full moon night in the forest.

This young lady and the man, both in their early twenties knew in an instant, without any words  spoken, that they had found one-another. After meeting and chatting for awhile they left before the others, long before the others.  I envied them a little bit.  They seemed to have found love without even a word spoken.


Months later the singles club director reported that shortly after meeting they had gotten married. Very happy now. They had no need to return to the singles club because they were no longer single. A happy story about instant attraction chemistry that held up to the test of time.

I did not learn about the power of attraction involving the use of Neural Linguistic Programming until years later, probably twenty years later. I do not recommend the use of NLP to attract a mate unless the person you are using it on is aware of what you are doing. The use of NLP to attract a mate gives the user an unfair advantage. NLP is a sophisticated method of matching, pacing and mirroring the behavior, body movements, body posture, pupil dilation and respiration rate of the person that you are talking to and want to date.

There may be several books listed below about NLP and perhaps a list of sexual pheromones products that attract both men and women together. There may also several lingerie selections that would or could be suitable to wear after the first date and after a scrumptious meal together with a little red wine. Back to singles clubs...

Singles clubs can provide a great, safe, and interesting variety of locations and activities for single people to meet. Note that below there is a link about advice for singles. The activities range in type and length of time. For example, some singles clubs offer short one hour lunch date opportunities. Other singles clubs focus on sports. Half and full day bicycle rides or hikes with picnic lunch, snack and rest breaks provide opportunities for singles to meet on common ground. Singles clubs with a focus on two or three day excursions will have camping, bed and breakfast or hotel accommodations in the event package.

EXTREME DATING.  One form of extreme activity that some singles clubs offer is speed dating. Speed dating can involve a group of ten or more men, as well as women, who have quick chats or conversations with each other on a rotating basis to determine who they want to date. Fast and intense speed dating. The variety of types of activities offered by singles clubs ranges from very relaxed and safe to the extreme. There are singles clubs in most metropolitan cities that feature events for singles.

My advice regarding singles clubs is this. Guard your heart. After all, meeting someone at a singles club is similar to meeting someone at the market, art exhibition, political rally or anywhere else. If the meeting, intentional or not intentional, is to meet someone to fill a lonely gap in the heart, there is always risk that the heart may be broken.


I have offered some additional information below about singles clubs including recent news feeds, links, magazines, books, and YouTube videos. I hope all of these information resources help you to make a more informed decision about choosing a singles club.

Please bear in mind that looking for a date with the deceptive intention of marriage, divorce for money or property, child support, or alimony, etc. is not at all good and will, in the end, result in misery for all.  I think as time passes, one will realize this is a very difficult world to live in, and, I do not expect things to get much easier.

In conclusion, if you have found any of the information here helpful you might be interested in reading my complete bio and some of the other 350 plus webpages I have written involving life, philosophy, other helpful nuggets involving everyday life.  Thanks for your visit and your time.